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# Lijiang
- URL: https://sheholds.com/lijiang/
- Published: 2026-01-25T09:10:26.000Z
- Updated: 2026-11-11T14:32:03.000Z
- Description: On altitude, breathlessness, and boundaries held.
- Author: Lai Yin 麗賢
- Tags: Marriage 婚姻, Travel 旅行, China

By the time I stepped into our pool steaming,  
at the Banyan Tree,  
I had won the trip in a lucky draw at Pacific Coffee in Hong Kong.

By the time we checked in to the hotel,  
I had already pretended I did not see him asking the customs officer at the airport not to flash a ring around she found in his luggage. 

By the time he had the ring made I had said to him:   
“You either marry me or I’m leaving you”.

We’d sit at home playing backgammon late into the night,  
him saying:  
“We don’t need to marry to live and have children together.  
Marriage was designed to trap women and ensure a man’s offspring inherit his land.”

I’d say:   
“I want children soon. I’m not having children outside of marriage”

By the time we arrived in Lijiang,  
he had crossed oceans to follow me.

Canberra  
[Sydney](https://sheholds.com/sydney/)  
[Bali](https://sheholds.com/bali/)  
[Paris](https://sheholds.com/paris/)  
[Sevilla](https://sheholds.com/sevilla/)

By the time we had breakfast,

I had posed for his camera naked,  
my hair in a bun.

Then we moved hotels.

By the time we reached Shangri-La,  
we were four thousand meters above Victoria Harbour.

The air was thin.  
Oxygen tanks were part of the minibar.  
I left him breathless.

We stayed in a Mongolian chalet.  
The Himalayas white,  
piercing the atmosphere in the distance.

By the time we watched  
the costumes,  
the waves of dancers,  
Mongolian chevaliers at full gallop,  
drums beating, flags flying,  
I had said yes.