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# Marriage
- URL: https://sheholds.com/marriage/
- Published: 2025-12-01T09:04:13.000Z
- Updated: 2026-11-11T16:00:19.000Z
- Description: On creating what's possible.
- Author: Lai Yin 麗賢
- Tags: Marriage 婚姻, Body 身體, #chapter, #placementsync

Marriage is a really bad idea.  
I can’t recommend it.

If you think you’ve found happiness in him,  
that he will make you happy? Think again.  
  
Separation has been in the air we breathe since the beginning.

Marriage is a really, really bad idea  
unless you get that it’s not about you.

It’s about him.  
It’s about making his life better than it would be without you.

If you can stand in that,  
you will be known, witnessed and obeyed.

If you are willing to regulate his nervous system,  
he will regulate yours.  
He will give you rest.  
He will give you power.  
He will [give you](https://sheholds.com/on-roundabouts/) everything.

If you give him [*harbour*](https://sheholds.com/i-am-harbour/),  
he will be your shelter.

If you fuel and launch him,  
he will orbit you.

We already didn't break up.  
We stayed when it was easier to flee.  
We stayed through resentment and return.  
We stayed through commitment to [locate each other](https://sheholds.com/tokyo/) again and again.

Today is our wedding anniversary.  
Happy anniversary, BB.

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