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# Our Playlist
- URL: https://sheholds.com/our-playlist/
- Published: 2026-05-18T08:03:08.000Z
- Updated: 2026-07-06T20:32:03.000Z
- Description: On K-pop, Sade, St. Germain, and hair in the shower
- Author: Lai Yin 麗賢
- Tags: Householding 持家, Origin 起源, Bordeaux, France

When my hair clogs up the shower drain, he removes it.  
When his wastepaper basket in the office fills, I empty it.

When [he cooks](https://sheholds.com/dinner-for-4/), I clean the kitchen.  
When I cook, I've [reset the kitchen](https://sheholds.com/at-the-car-wash/) before he takes his last bite.

He says, “*Leave it, I’ll do it.”*  
I say, “*It’s already done.*”

When we use the car, I drive.  
When I play my music, I say, “*I know you hate this.*”

He says, “*You are driving, you get to pick the music.*”

When I’m done, I play Sade or put on [Jazz24](https://sheholds.com/provence/) without comment.

When we eat out, I order for him.  
When I walk ahead, he checks out my bum.

When I catch him, he says, “*You have the biggest ass in all of France,*” and winks.

When I open iCloud,  
on my phone,  
on my laptop,  
at home,  
it’s a shared account he maintains.

His face unlocks my phone.  
My password for everything is the date of our [first date](https://sheholds.com/spring-moon/).

He’s never changed the password on his phone,  
he leaves it on the table when,  
he goes to the bathroom in restaurants,  
since [Sevilla](https://sheholds.com/sevilla/), all those years ago.

Twenty years and three daughters later,  
we’ve opened joint bank accounts,  
dropped individual email accounts for a joint email address.

Twenty years and three daughters later,  
he says:

“*I was just thinking the same thing.*”  
“*Of course you want that.*”

Twenty years and three daughters later,  
he stops what he’s doing to make me a flat white when I wake.

Twenty years and three daughters later,  
he says:

“*Yes, wife,*” when he hears me.  
“*Yes, ma’am,*” to tease me.  
“*Yes, my love.*”

Twenty years and three daughters later,  
I say:

*“Where is my* [*playlist*](https://sheholds.com/playlist/)*?”* 
*“Where is my passport?”* 
*“How does this turn on?”*

*“Do you like this house?”* 
*“Let me show you the neighbourhood.”*

He says:

*“Yes, wife, let’s check it out.”*

Twenty years and three daughters later,  
I’m still saying:

*“Do I belong to you?”* 
*“Do you belong to me?”*

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[Love Jones 3 by DJ Felt1](https://djfelt1.bandcamp.com/album/love-jones-3)