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Somatic Placement

How a woman becomes the gravitational centre of her world.

The music teacher.

On clapping, hips and rhythm.

The music teacher.
Photo by Alex Padurariu
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At the school Christmas concert, I saw something I can’t unsee.

The music teacher held a hall of children, parents, and noise with nothing but her presence.

She didn’t shout.
She didn’t plead.
She didn’t manage.

She signalled.

When she needed silence, she clapped a rhythm.
Three quick beats, a pause, two more.

Every child echoed her instantly.
The room belonged to her.

When she needed time to switch music, pull a whiteboard, or fix something, she used longer clap patterns.
She made them up on the spot.
They were code.

The children knew the language.
Their hands repeated hers while she created space for herself to reset.

No chaos.
No hesitation.

Her body was her instrument.

She knelt to meet the youngest in the front row, giving them the rhythm with her hands.
She rose, hips swinging, arms slicing the air to cue the choir behind them.

When she jumped, they sang higher.

When she slowed her movements,
the whole room softened.


Watch Australian music teacher Astrid turn the entire America’s Got Talent audience into a choir using her whole body to direct: clapping, stepping, signalling. She wore a black dress lit with bold appliqué. Scarlet hands stitched onto the bodice lifted her breasts. Another hand pressed over her crotch. Two more climbed up from the hem at the back, cupping her bum. It was provocation sewn into fabric, a costume that dared the room to look and then keep looking.

The audience rises for the choir she’s created.

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Lai Yin 麗賢

Lai Yin writes about marriage, sex, motherhood, family, food, airports, driving and the work of holding a house. She lives in Europe with her husband, their three daughters and two dogs.

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